27 of the rules of the 19th century gentleman

We want to introduce you to the basic rules of communication for the gentlemen who first published in 1875 in A Gentleman's Guide to Etiquette's Cecil B. Hartley.

1. Riding inexperience is a distraction while talking on his watch, the handset or notebook. Even if you're tired and you're bored, do not show this.
2. Never interrupt someone who says. Even a simple clarification of the wrong date can be rude if you that nobody asked. Even worse for a person to finish his thought or rush it in any way. Waiting until the end of the anecdote or story, even you are already familiar.
3. Never try to prove their case by increasing the voice of arrogance or derogatory treatment. Always be kind and honest , free from any dictatorship.
4. Never, of course, if you did not ask do not tell about your own business or profession in society. Generally less attention is paid to the person.
5. Gentleman with a real intelligence and culture, usually modest. It may feel like being in everyday society that he intellectually above those around him, but he will not seek to show their superiority over them. He will not seek to affect the topics in which the sides are not knowledgeable. Whatever he says, always noted courtesy and respect for the feelings and opinions of others.
6. No less important than the ability to speak well, the ability to listen with interest. It is what makes a person a great conversationalist and distinguishes man from a good society.
7. Never listen to a conversation between two people that is not meant for you. If they are so close that you can not hear them, you can, observing decorum, just go to another place.
8. Try to speak as much as possible, brief and to the point. Avoid prolonged distractions and not related to the subject of comments.
9. If you hearken to flattery, then you should also open the door to excessive conceit and stupidity.
10. Even if you are sure that your opponent is not quite right, keep a calm discussion , arguments and counter-arguments to express not becoming personal. If you see that the other person is adamant in his error, then deftly move the conversation to another subject, leaving him to save face, and you avoid the anger and irritation.
11. Note, if you want persistent political beliefs. But do not bulge them in any case and in any case, do not force other people to agree with you. Listen calmly other opinions and not get stuck in a fierce debate. Suppose your partner thinks you're a bad politician, but do not give him a reason to doubt that you are a gentleman.
12. Talking about your friends, do not compare them with each other. Talk about the merits of each of them, but do not try to enhance the dignity of one by another opposition vices.
13. Avoid any conversation topics that can injure missing. gentleman would never slander or libel listen.
14. Even witty man becomes tedious and ill-mannered as he tries to fully absorb the attention of the company.
15. Avoid too frequent use of quotations and thoughts of the great. As a flavoring for food, they can decorate the conversation, but an excessive amount of spoils the dish.
16. Avoid pedantry. This is not a sign of intelligence and stupidity.
17. Speak their native language correctly , at the same time do not be too big supporter of formal correctness phrases.
18. Never make comments if others make mistakes in his speech. Pay attention to words or other action by such mistakes is a sign of bad manners interlocutor.
19. If you are an expert or scientist, avoid using technical terms. This is a sign of bad taste, because many people can not understand. However, if you accidentally used a word or phrase will be an even greater mistake to rush immediately to explain its meaning. Nobody will thank you for this underscore their ignorance.
20. Never aspire to play the role of jester, because very quickly you will gain fame as a "ridiculous man" for parties. This role is not valid for this gentleman. Strive to make your sides laughing with you, not at you.
21. Avoid boasting. Talk about their money, telephone, is a sign of very bad taste. So we can not be proud of your closeness with outstanding people, even if it takes place to be. Constant emphasis on "my friend, Governor X" or "my close friend, the president of Y» is pompous and unacceptable.
22. Do not strive to give your image an excessive depth and sophistication , contemptuously rejecting cheerful conversations, jokes and entertainment. Try to act in accordance with the society in which you are in, if it does not conflict with the rules of a gentleman.
23. Roughly, indecent and foolish to insert citations into his speech, expressions and terms in a foreign language.
24. If you feel like getting angry in a conversation, then either refer to another topic, or shut up. You can say the words in the heat of passion that you would never use in a peaceful state of mind, and then you will bitterly regret.
25. "Never talk about rope in the presence of a man whose relative was hanged" - although it's rough, but true proverb. Carefully avoid topics that might be too personal for a friend, do not interfere in other people's family affairs . Do not seek to discuss other people's secrets, but if you do them all the same trusted, consider this as a very valuable mark and never transmit their knowledge to a third party.
26. Although travel contribute to the development of mind and outlook gentleman, still not worth it in any case, insert the phrase "when I was in Paris ...", "in Italy that are not ..." and so on.
27. Avoid gossip. This is a woman looks disgusting, but for men it is absolutely despicable.